One big frustration for me during my lyme has been that it’s physically held me back from being women and having sex. I haven’t seen this talked about anywhere, and i’ve had to find ways to deal with it.
It might be due to just having too much fatigue, just not having the energy, feeling too sick or weak. For me it was those, but also having soreness aroud my groin, from inflammation in my prostate and other annoying issues. For somebody who really loved sex and had alot of it, this was incredibly frustrating!
I hated it but I also found it has brought me to alot of growth in other areas, due to having to face my issues of abandonment, adoption, the reasons I kept wanting to be with more and more women. I was just hoping that i’d feel better about myself.. but it never really helped.
Instead of covering it up with sex and women like I had for years, I had to face alot of it.
Of course there’s the physical desire still, but mainly what i’m talking about is emotional issues, past trauma and such that might be causing you to constantly want women to make you feel better about yourself, feel worth something, feel good enough. These feelings would constantly push me to try to find more women even at times when I didn’t even have a strong sexual desire to.
It was basically a coping mechanism to get away from those feelings of pain, trauma, abandonment, all the emotions around being adopted. Due to these things for years i’d neglect almost everything else in my life that I really needed to work on and just focused on meeting women and going to the gym in an obsessive way. There’s nothing wrong with meeting women, even being with several women, or with going to the gym. But it depends why, if you’re doing it to try to cover up certain emotions and hopefully one day feel good about yourself, then it won’t work.
I still want to be fit, healthy and in good shape but I no longer really feel the need to continually keep putting on muscle in the hope i’ll feel good about myself. I still can’t workout too intensely and also had to learn to pace myself, listen to my body, and do a whole lot less because my strength was low. Over time i’ve learnt to just do what i’m able to and slowly build over time.
Not being able to have sex caused me a whole lot of intense emotions such as anger, frustration, feeling like everything was hopeless, that I just don’t give a fuck about anything, nothing matters if I can’t have sex, feeling like if I could just have sex that everything would be okay again etc.
That’s alot of things to deal with. Most of those same emotions are what drove me to this coping mechanism in the first place! If you’re here reading this then it’s safe to say that you’ve experienced similar.
So how do you deal with it?
I admit I still struggle with this sometimes, but i’ve improved alot and managed to deal with it over time. Back before I the lyme I used to go out to places mainly just to meet women and didn’t care much about anything else, I didn’t really care about socializing for the sake of it.
Through my healing I started to develop the desire to just socialize for the sake of it, enjoy connecting with people and not needing to go out just to meet women. I now enjoy connecting with other kinds of people that I wouldn’t before. I even found a few times that because I was just socializing for the sake of enjoyment that I had some girls who would like me as I wasn’t really trying to do anything.
What have I found beneficial?
There are several things i’ve found beneficial in general aswell as for these issues. I’ll present the first one now and more in future articles.
PSTEC.
PSTEC helps you clear negative emotions either in general, around a past event or even a situation that’s happening in the present. Iit can also help you to remove negative beliefs and replace them with positive beliefs! The ideal combination is doing both the emotional and belief work, and it is handled with different audios. I mainly experimented with the belief change audios with these specific issues, it helped a bit but for best results you definitely want to first deal with the emotions around it. Using it in the past for other things, both the emotions and beliefs I got good results, I just wanted to try something else I found for a while at the time I was doing PSTEC again. I started to experiment with Inner Child work which is another highly effective method i’ll expand on in the next article.
Funnily enough I used PSTEC in the past quite effectively to improve my confidence with women, and to get laid.
You listen to the audio while holding different things in mind, either the emotion, memory or belief and you are guided in healing it by the audio, which is what makes it simple, you just have to do it!
For example you could use the clicktracks (to deal with the negative emotions) on the frustration of not being able to have sex. Then deal with the negative belief of “I need to have sex to be happy” and install a positive belief of “I can find new ways in life to be happy.” Following their guidelines and instructions of course.
The big benefit to PSTEC is that you can start using it relatively quickly and simply and start getting results.
To give you an idea of PSTECs effectiveness I will expand on some of the things it helped me with –
-Years ago I got attacked with an axe by a woman’s ex husband who broke into the house when I was there. I was okay physically but it really messed me up in other ways. I won’t expand other than after that I refused to stay overnight at any woman’s house for obvious reasons, I just would leave in the middle of the night. I had some good sounding excuses at the time that I can’t even remember anymore. I was working on this memory alot with the clicktracks, and something shifted then I thought “Ok i’m going to try staying over again” and since then I was okay with it. I still find it difficult to sleep with someone else in the bed, i’m not sure if I always did to a certain extent or only since that trauma.
-I was using the earlier belief change tracks with positive visualization. I won’t go into detail as it may increase the frustration that this very article is about for both of us!. But one belief for example was around being attractive. And I met this woman at a public speaking class who come with someone else. And talking to her she said her friend was right, that I am hot. I asked her “really, how hot” and she said “9 out of 10”. That’s something i’ve never been told before, and it can only be the PSTEC work manifesting it.
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