As i’ve mentioned, an important part of this healing journey is reconnecting with yourself and your Inner Child, as that’s where alot of your pain is held. Your trauma and the negative things you’re still holding onto from your childhood that are contributing to your current issues and also in alot of ways your illness and your health.
One way to connect with your Inner Child, especially if it was something you used to enjoy when younger is drawing.
This can be done in 2 different ways.
The first is just sit and draw, reconnect with your creativity, you might draw random things, or you find something you can copy off. You might find a guide of how to draw different things and give it a go, i’ve done all of the above and it was fun. And some of my drawings were better than expected.
You can do this regularly, to help you relax, get away from things, find your creativity and sense of joy again. I found it helped me reconnect with playfulness, creativity and positive emotions.
The other way might sound strange, but works well. This is more directly connecting with the emotions of your Inner Child and using drawing as a way of expressing them and getting them out.
For this you want to draw with your non-dominant hand. Yes it’ll likely be alot worse, but this more directly connects with your Inner Child. Close your eyes, imagine you’re connecting with your Inner Child and just draw from there without thinking too much.
It might come out with something negative, fearful, scary.. and that’s okay just let it flow. It’s coming up let yourself feel and be with the emotions. I’m not saying it has to be negative, you might also reconnect with something positive. I found this is a good way to go a bit deeper.
The first way is more drawing for expression, this way is more drawing to access deeper emotions you’ve lost contact with and allowing yourself to feel them so they can discharge.
The drawings tend to be symbolic and can sometimes be a bit intense. If you were bullied at school it might be a picture of your Inner Child looking sad and other people around him with mean looks on their faces.
Don’t try to censor it, or beat yourself up because of it. It’s coming up for a reason, let it be just how it is.
If you’ve seen kids drawings, especially on movies where they draw disturbing things then you can see how it’s an expression of what might be going on in their world and a way of expression and sorting through it. I just had something come to mind that when I was at school I used to draw alot of violent pictures and I got into trouble. My parents had to come in and I was told off for it, and told that I had to draw nicer things.
I just realized that this wasn’t actually helpful to me, being told to stop and suppress it, in fact it was likely damaging as I was expressing something for a reason but being told I was bad for it.
An important part of healing your Inner Child is letting him know that what he’s feeling is okay, you’re not going to judge or criticize him for it, that you’re there for him no matter what and that you love him.
All the things that a real child needs to hear, and that alot of you unfortunately probably didn’t!
You might resist the thought of even sitting down and drawing like this, it might seem ‘stupid’ or ‘a waste of time’ and you might just feel bored with the thought. As I reconnected with my Inner Child I was able to relax and do this more, but sometimes I still had to make myself sit down and do it, and most of the time i’ve found that when i’ve done so i’ve enjoyed it, even if at first I was questioning it.
If you want more in depth information about your Inner Child and how to reconnect with him, and start to heal the negative emotions you’ve been holding onto for years, then get my guide “Exploring and Healing The Deep Pain of Your Inner Child” below. But atleast give this drawing a go, I found it very beneficial to reconnect with these emotions in a different way.