Why Does This Same Issue Keep Coming Up For Me?

November 11, 2020 // by Ben// 99 Comments

So you’ve been doing all these different methods for healing your emotions, trauma, limiting beliefs but for some reason you find again and again over a period of time that similar issues come up for you, for example the same traumatic memory you’ve worked on many times.

I was talking to somebody about this today, I know how frustrating it is. After doing alot of EFT, PSTEC and other things I found that earlier this year when I started somatic trauma work from Irene Lyon (the best trauma work i’ve found so far and i’ve tried alot) that some of the same issues come up again. I realized that this meant this method was going deeper, finding other aspects of it but also it showed me how trauma can also be stuck in the body so it’s beneficial to also deal with it at that level instead of just the thoughts and emotions that come up like with some other practices.

Eventually you’ll find a method you’ll want to stick with for an extended amount of time, and that’s good as continually jumping from method to method needlessly after a few weeks or a month can just get you confused. I still try new things at times but for example i’ve done Irene Lyon’s work most of this year, before that I did Inner Child work for maybe 6 months and got alot of benefit. I also found these 2 things combined well.

I want you to know that after doing this for a long time and talking to other people about it, it’s quite normal that similar things can come up again, especially with different methods. As different methods approach things in different ways, differ in the way they explore and find the issues and emotions so it makes sense, plus some go deeper than others.

Sometimes we don’t realize how something is affecting us until we dig into it. For example i’m not necessarily walking around feeling all this rage all the time so I could think “I don’t have much anger or rage” but past experiences where i’ve exploded after it’s built up over time told me differently. Also doing Inner Child and somatic work I was able to find and connect with alot more rage that was deeper down.

Sometimes you aren’t even aware of this until you explore it and let it come up, especially if you’re just new to this work.

There seems to be a tendency where eventually we are brought back to these issues that we still need to resolve. Whether that be some experiences you have or something you attract into your life, or at the extreme level an illness that seems to ‘suddenly’ just pop up.

With my lyme it kind of seemed like that, but really I had low energy for years even though I was eating really healthily and in the best shape of my life physically. At first I could barely function when the infection woke up, but it also directed me to deal with certain issues that every now and then i’d realize “yeah I really need to deal with this” but then i’d go back to my old patterns and coping mechanisms.

Sometimes it gets so much that your body and mind will bring up physical illness or symptoms as a way to tell you “Stop, you have to deal with this!.”

It’s not fun, it’s not enjoyable, I really didn’t want to deal with it when it happened for me. But I had no choice, I just had to keep going. And now it’s been one thing that’s lead me to the most growth and expansion in my life and learning so much about health, healing, it lead me to Autonomic Response Testing which has helped me so much and now i’m taking my experiences to help others.

So what you could find in your symptoms, the illness that’s presenting, these issues you’re having might be surprising. Each time you work on similar issues and memories you can go deeper and heal more.