This might sound confusing, but i’ll explain.
When we have anxiety or depression were told that the solution is to just do things like exercise, have a bath, go for a walk. That’s fine and yes it’s good to do these things, better than not doing it. But they won’t necessarily be a solution if these emotions are at a deeper level.
At the deeper level anxiety is due to our past experiences (e.g trauma).
if you want to heal it on a deeper level it involves using a method that helps you to bring up and release these feelings.
The past experiences/trauma basically generates the emotions and the limiting beliefs. So the process involves usually first starting with the surface emotions eg anxiety in this case.. and as you work on that you’ll find that memories might come up, even things you haven’t thought of for a long time.
That’s because you’re kind of stirring it up and your mind is like ‘ok here is all the evidence of why you have that emotion’ and you can then take that memory and work on it, including the feelings of frustration (or whatever other emotion you’re working on) using the same process.
It takes time, and it’s not always comfortable but it is very worth it. And it is definately beneficial to combine this with looking after yourself and doing those external things mentioned that might help you relax, whether it’s taking a bath, exercising, going for a walk, playing with your dog. You can make a list for yourself as there will be things that I haven’t even thought of that are suitable for you.
Sure sometimes anxiety can be trying to tell you to do something. Like sometimes I might feel a bit anxious after being in the house for too long, and sometimes I take it as “It’s time to go out somewhere” and then i’ll feel better after doing so. But for deeper levels of anxiety, or other emotions you’re dealing with this needs to be combined with the emotional healing method for best results.
You can ask yourself some questions if you’re struggling to find things to work on. First as i’ve said just start with the emotion.. but you can also ask yourself “Why do I have this anxiety?” “What does this remind me of?” “What are the earliest memories I can think of where I felt anxious?” “What is this anxiety stopping me from doing?” (and think of that situation and the anxiety that it brings up and use the same process) and work on all of those over time.
Don’t do it all at once as it can be overwhelming, and with this work you also need time and space to process the work you’re doing. But if you stay persistent over time it will make a noticable difference. Sometimes it’s good to keep a journal so you can look back and notice what’s going on, as sometimes you may not always realize the changes.
Find the improvements, find the evidence that the work you’re doing is shifting things, you might react slightly differently in a situation you’re in, you might have certain intuitions of things to do that you may not usually do which are good to follow, you may find yourself reconnecting with old parts of yourself that you thought you’d lost but were just covered up by the trauma, anxiety and other emotions you’re working on.
I mention other emotions because don’t just make this specific to anxiety, take your other limiting emotions and work on those too and they will also likely impact and improve on the work you’re doing for the anxiety. You could really take what i’ve written and substitute any other limiting emotion and it would still apply.
If you want a simple method to start with, then PSTEC is awesome. I really was convinced of it’s effectiveness after I was attacked and then would avoid a certain situation. I was working on it alot and suddenly something shifted and I started to be able to do that thing again, which was a big shift at the time. It really works well.
You can start with their free course and do ALOT with it before even getting anything else. Have a look below.